Marianne O'Hagan

Moon's Nodes houses

You have a problem with taking leadership roles. You can become dependent on others because you feel more comfortable when others take the lead. You should look beyond yourself and understand the deeper essence of life. Others need a strong arm to lean on too. You must develop a new approach to life and not allow others to make your decisions for you. You go along with others while they achieve their goals, but you can lose your identity in following and supporting their desires. You can be overly influenced by the needs of others with a tendency to place them ahead of your own. You should consider your needs, act on behalf of yourself and strengthen your sense of identity through expressing yourself in a direct and honest way! “What you want”. You must generate your own confidence, vitality and energy and take leadership roles without doubting yourself. Then others will follow your lead.
You have an attractive appeal to others and you feel good if your partner is happy. You can concern yourself excessively about your partner’s welfare. You can become dependent on your partner and friends and play the supportive role because it is second nature for you to be supportive. You know what other people need to be happy. Others do not appear to support you in your time of need because you create the atmosphere, the tone, the mood. You tend to attract people who do not know how to be supportive. You need to directly and objectively communicate your needs rather than silently expecting others to meet them. They won’t unless you ask. You need to point the way; then others will be supportive. When you encourage and support other people they flourish and you reap the rewards and satisfaction. When others encourage you to be self-supporting they reap the rewards and satisfaction. It is all a matter of balance.
You have a problem with values, expenditure and your resources. You should build on professions that are compatible to your personal development. You have the ability to influence others with your practical abilities and through this you can win support either psychologically or practically. You should learn to set limits. Always keep something in reserve rather than giving too much to others and suffering loss. You should learn not to let your expenses run ahead of your resources. To develop a sense of self-worth you should live according to the values you know to be correct for you. You must develop your abilities and establish your personal security. You have a talent for building your resources through the practical application of your skills. This can lead to an appropriate profession. If you develop patience and persistence you will become self-sufficient and direct your path according to your values and needs.
You can lack discrimination and be influenced by other people’s values. You may feel vulnerable in love and you can withdraw from the relationship in order to gain control. You tend to focus on things that give you security, for example your house, children or finances, but this can jade love. You can be enmeshed in co-dependency, relying on other people to provide your security, and you can be hurt especially where commitments and trust is involved. You may not always consider the rights of others; therefore you can become involved in battles revolving around other people’s values and resources. Manipulation of shared financial or sexual interests can create tension through power games where you can experience mistrust through destructive power games. You must strike a balance in shared or committed interests. You need others to compliment you in order to feel a sense of fulfilment, but this does not bring independence. You tend to analyse the motivations behind other people’s game play.
You have a healthy curiosity and an enquiring mind, but you need to learn how to communicate effectively. You will seek the answers to many questions in order to learn more about the subjects you are really interested in. Philosophy and higher learning are easy for you, but this can set up barriers in general communications because you can intellectualise. This can set up misunderstandings in general communications. You can see both sides of any situation therefore you can adlib or mediate duality. You should strive to become more fluent and less opinionated when expressing your ideas. You should learn to consider other people’s points of view with an open mind before making statements, and you should seek factual knowledge before informing others. You have a clever mind, but you must concentrate on gaining a true understanding of any subject you are interested in before considering yourself professional. Knowledge is never wasted; you take it with you wherever you go.
You have a tendency to be self righteousness. You can debate on dialogue to prove a point, but others may not want to communicate with you because you cannot be right all the time. You have a strong desire to communicate your new ideas and ideals with others instead of listening to their opinions. In this respect you may show a lack of regard for those who can help you in gaining knowledge. You must listen to others with an open mind and learn through their ideas and opinions. This can open your mind up to new and helpful ways of thinking. You can act on gut feelings, jump to conclusions and resist ideas that are not in accordance with your own. When you are not fully conversant with your subject, you can assume or invent dialogue with an air of conviction that can impress the experts. You are mentally agile and you will probably challenge yourself intellectually because you have a strong urge to educate yourself. You know that superficial knowledge cannot replace truth and understanding.
You have a problem with growing up and taking responsibility. In your growing up years there may have been many changes in your family life. You should reflect on your family/home environment, understand your inner feelings and learn to let go of family support. You can cling to support. You are learning to be self supporting. You have a strong drive to stay bonded with family security and family approval, but emotions can run high through family changes. You try to keep the family together because you want family approval, but this seldom happens. You tend to follow family traditions inherent in your upbringing, but you must be true to yourself. You should examine your upbringing for clues as to why you feel a certain amount of distancing from some family members. You may feel you are constantly reaching out to keep the family together. If the family expectations are not in accordance with your own expectations, then you should follow your own path. You must become an honest expression of “who you are” and build your own foundations. You must move beyond family values and traditions.
You have a strong drive to receive recognition for what you do. Perhaps your family placed an emphasis on achievement and failed to recognise feelings and emotions. You may have status conscious people in your family who rival for position. Your achievements were important to your parents but they may not have supported you in the attainment of them. You have a natural drive to achieve and attain recognition, and although you work hard it appears you receive little recognition from your family. You must find the balance between supporting a career and supporting family expectations. One can suffer at the expense of the other. You are goal driven with the need to achieve, but you can worry about the level of achievement because family approval and recognition is important. Lack of recognition can trigger a deep sense of failure and seriously affect your self-esteem. You will strive hard in your life to gain the respect and approval of those you love.
You have a problem with feeling wanted and loved. Either you underrate yourself or you go completely overboard in your desire to feel wanted and loved. You have to learn how to relax and enjoy yourself. When you see the creative essence in others you feel inspired but others may not recognise your creative essence to the degree that you desire. You are sensitive and you want to feel recognised and loved but you fear being hurt. Any lack of acknowledgement or love in social circles leaves you feeling overlooked and unloved. This reinforces your inner feelings of social and creative uncertainty.
You must not depend on others to recognise your creativity. You must independently develop your social and creative skills and focus on positive outcomes. You should express your creative essence positively and enjoy life. This brings pleasure to others. You are a very creative person and you can use your creative talents skilfully. You may consider that other people are more lovable than you, and it is in this context that you may feel socially inferior, unwanted or unloved. You should try to develop the lighter side of your personality in active and tangible ways and believe in yourself. Put your faith in yourself and let your light shine.
You are objective, continually observing and watching others getting on with their goals and objectives. You can have a fear of getting too close to others; perhaps you have a fear of losing your objectivity. It has kept you safe in the past. When you feel tense or uncomfortable in social situations you can put a wall up. When others ask for advice, you cut through the red tape and get to the point – to the facts, and you stand by what you say. You must be open to progressive change, even though it may temporarily disrupt goal achievement. You must recognise the rights of others in respect of independence and freedom. You can be impractical and your expectations can be too idealistic. You can mentally drift and daydream (think instead of acting) and underrate your abilities. People can expect you to do things in the way they want you to do them without considering the way you want to do them. You will learn to be independent through the people you associate with, they can be diverse and/or of temporary association, with their own ideals and goals in mind, not yours.
You have a problem with health, work and service. You work to a high standard, but you should learn to accept praise and appreciation for what you do without feeling undeserving. The only way to achieve your goals is to organise your life in practical ways, and be willing to work in service to others. You are learning to deal with the physical practicalities of life. You must stay in the present and create order in your working environment. You are truly compassionate and you want to help wherever you can but you must learn to be practical. You must base your service on practical foundations, develop a good strong work ethic, and charge for your services. Also you should meet set routines and deadlines. To achieve positive and practical results in the material world you need to work. Once you have defined your goal, you can become mentally inspired and work with a purpose. Getting the job done then becomes fulfilling. You are very understanding and you can solve difficult problems and give expert advice. If you do not direct your energy into practical work you can worry and your health can be affected.
You are highly developed on a spiritual level which is extremely important to you. You have a conscious awareness of the spiritual side of life. When faced with too much work such as time schedules, deadlines, demands etc. you have a tendency to find an excuse to get out of the situation because you need to take a step back and recuperate. You have a tendency to daydream and fantasise, this enhances your ability to function in the real world. You have an instinctive need to gain peace of mind. You know what it feels like to be a victim. You have been one in many lifetimes, so you will create a new reality. You are in the process of creating something opposite to that of being a victim. You have a tendency to be inactive, to give up at the final hurdle. You must learn not to give up. You have an inner awareness of the spiritual dimensions of life and you are attuned to the higher forces. You are very sensitive and easily hurt. Through sensitivity you are very careful not to hurt others. In fact, you can be more concerned about the suffering you see in others than for your own suffering. You can be attracted to meditation. This can clear your mind. Your imagination can be active, you can imagine all kinds of negative outcomes that can override logic and interfere with efficiency. You should develop a sound philosophy in order to deal with reality on a practical level. You should concentrate on positive outcomes.
You have a problem with close relationships. You must accept that we all have to cooperate, share and recognise each others needs. You should learn to support without expecting anything in return. Try to step into another persons shoes and understand their demands of you instead of thinking of your own independence. You should learn to share equally, “give and take”. Try to detach from your concern with your image. Take a positive look at how others respond to you as a person. Then do what you can to channel your energy into making partnerships and other one-to-one relationships flow harmoniously. You are a good counsellor and mediator. You have the ability to clearly see, and put into words the concerns of one person to another which can result in harmonious compromise. You may feel you are always giving but no one gives back. You bring people together in friendship, they then have friends and you have none. This makes you ask the question, “Why?” While you are the counsellor you have friends. Do this on a friendship level and you will have friends. All relationships have individual needs. You need to concentrate on the strengths that make your relationships work. You will develop and grow through close friendships and partnerships.
You have lost awareness of other people’s emotions and feelings resulting in an inability to relate to others on a feeling level. This brings inner loneliness. You tend to worry excessively about being beaten or outdone. You can set up “fight” situations because the instinct to win is very strong. You have strong feelings of martyrdom. You may look out at the world and see how much people punish you. You need to be aware of selfishness, looking out for yourself first, and making sure other people meet your needs, regardless of their feelings, as long as other people pay attention to you, you feel fine. You may consider that self sufficiency will give you the confidence you need to relate successfully to others, thus eliminating loneliness. You are driven to achieve self-sufficiency and independence of action. Your consciousness is geared towards the physical self, combative ability and survival. You are competitive and goal driven with a strong urge to survive. You are always aware of what is going on around you and how others can affect you through what they do. You take things personally. You long to be loved by others but you don’t know how to relate. You are afraid to release your strong grip on self-control, because you anticipate loss. This puts you on your guard. You have fought many battles in past lifetimes and lost touch with love. You find it very hard to move beyond yourself, and you can feel awkward when socialising in fellowship or friendship. You have a strong tolerance for harsh restraints and discipline. You thrive on the challenge of personal survival. However others may not feel the same way as you. This can challenge relationships.
You have a problem with risking your security. You must make constructive changes in your life and avoid the depleting strangleholds of other people’s values. You need to break down rigid routines. Go out into the world and make yourself do things. You must be true to yourself in relationships when you give your support or pool your resources because other people can use your resources or deplete your finances. It is preferable that you stay in positive environments instead of connecting with negative people who expect you to assist them. You may find it difficult to accept support from others because inwardly, you like to be resourceful and independent. But subconsciously you may look to others for support because you may feel you never have enough and you need to feel secure and supported. You must learn to release the old values that hold you back and replace them with new values then you will feel much stronger. When you feel you are held back in life, you should re-evaluate shared agreements and release anything that has become a stranglehold. You can get caught up in other people’s values and lose yourself which can affect you on a psychological level. Others can benefit you when you share yourself honestly because they can add valuable perspectives to your life and help you transform the depleting strangleholds of the past.
You can be extremely supportive of others with a disregard for yourself. You can place your “wants and needs” second, and inject more energy into the “wants and needs” of others. Everyone seems to lean on you for support. You must learn to place limits on exactly how much you are prepared to give otherwise you can feel ripped off. You must strike a balance. Do not give too much or take too much. You do not like change and you do not like others telling you what to do, you will “do it yourself”. You may repeatedly do things one way, your way! You are attached to thoroughness and even if you know another way is easier, you still have your own way of doing things. This can make life much more difficult than it needs to be. You must force yourself to adopt new ways. You were born with a lot of rigid values; therefore life can be difficult. You need to let go of the values you have carried over from past lives. You need to be open to life’s energy and place your trust in the universe. You can be hard on yourself because you like routine and order, yet you can remain in stagnant routines rather than introduce change. This can deplete your energy. You can feel insecure when you are out of routine. You may think routine is good and it will continue to be good providing you keep repeating it, that is until a build up of energy occurs and you have to let go. Letting go is sometimes necessary. You are your own slave driver, but somewhere along the line you have to learn to give yourself permission to let go of stagnant routines.
You have a problem with study and education. You do not like getting involved in the status quo, or intellectual laws that take away your right to form your own views and opinions, or choice of study. You should listen to your intuition and take courses that develop your intellectual strengths. Follow your hunches and read about controversial issues, then formulate your own opinions. You need to listen to your intuition, trust and act from your integrity. This will draw the right people to you to help you gain a more focused approach to education. You should focus on your higher-self where you can tap into a heightened intelligence – a source of information available to you. When you listen to your intuition situations can be resolved. When you live and speak from your higher-self, people of bad intent will withdraw and people of good intent will remain. You should learn to live in accordance with your higher mind and those who are similarly attuned will connect with you.
In your growing up years you may have struggled with education and although you tried to do well, you probably felt intellectually inferior. You should learn to concentrate on what is actually being said. You tend to concentrate on your own train of thought. This can lead to cross talking, cross guessing and/or missing the point with little intellectual clarity gained. When you become uncertain, you can be impatient for information and you can ask many questions to ferret out answers. You can challenge other people’s ideas and opinions and quickly jump from one subject to another; this can result in a maze of mental disconnections. You are curious and you live in the realms of constant mental scenarios. You have a strong drive to stay informed with what is going on around you. You can suffer from anxiety disorders or sleeplessness through an over active mind, or too much mental stimulation. You can intermittently leave courses and think of returning at a later date. You have a strong drive to develop your mind. You will constantly strive to improve your intellect.
You have a subconscious problem with respect and authority. This can cover a basic dislike of authority and control. You can subconsciously fear people in authority and you may pull away from controlling situations. You can lack confidence in your ability to take control in public. You work within the social structures of rules and regulations which you see as positive. But you can be too dependent on the approval and recognition of others. You can feel socially isolated which can be the result of coping with low self-esteem. You may have a problem in gaining recognition. Your upbringing can have included correct standards, disciplines and conduct. You must let go of the past and take control of your direction. Make contact with people who can assist you in becoming self-supporting. You have to learn to approach situations from a position of being in charge. You should accept responsibility for the success it brings; then you will develop a sense of self-respect. When you achieve the goals you set yourself you will gain confidence in the public arena. If you respect the position of others they will assist you in reaching your goals, and with the development of organisational skill you can operate in sole-charge positions.
Domestic demands can be used as an excuse for not developing your potential. You have a strong need for a private life, but you can isolate yourself and spend too much time catering to the needs of others. You have low self-esteem. You are reluctant to take the initiative. This can lead to inaction. You can limit your chances in life through past experiences and a fear of failure. You can have an emotional dependency on others, but you should let go of the idea that other people are going to take care of you and look after your welfare. You have a subconscious need to be in an environment where you feel safe, protected and cared for. You must develop inner-confidence and support yourself. You have a natural understanding of the emotional needs of family but you can become dependent on them and/or other people to meet your needs. When you feel insecure you can control others through emotional responses in the hope that they will support you. To overcome this tendency you must develop and grow in self-confidence. Then you will become self-supporting.
You have a problem with other people’s goals because you tend to promote their goals and interests at the expense of your own. You try to see the good in others because you want to bring the best out in them, but if they should take advantage you will withdraw or detach. You need to associate with many different people because you can develop your strengths through group associations. You are a team player and you work well in groups but you must retain your independence because people can become unreliable when you most need them. You need to reassess the true meaning of friendship. You relate to people on an equal basis, and you believe that all people should have equal rights. This may not be reciprocated. You are learning to become independent in the realisation of your goals, yet in association with others. You have a strong need for approval from your friends and associates. But if you want to succeed, you must firstly acknowledge yourself and pursue your own independent goals within the framework of group or collective interests.
You need to feel the fulfilment of pleasure. When young, you can act inappropriately to gain the love you desire, but you can experience difficulty in love affairs. You may take measures to obtain recognition in love but a lack of fulfilment in romance can follow. You may insist on getting your own way in love and you have a tendency to take risks. You may do what others expect of you in order to make them feel happy instead of being true to yourself. You can have passionate and dynamic relationships, but you may be unaware of the importance of love and how it affects the emotions and feelings of others. You may believe that if you have a happy love life, then all will be well. You need to balance your romantic/love energy and share your true feelings with those you love instead of seeking acclaim and admiration. You like to feel special. You don’t like being treated the same as everyone else. You have lost group/friendship awareness. You should look outside the image you wish to create and consider the feelings of others.
You have a problem with asking for help, or admitting to certain aspects of your inner psyche that do not come up to your ideal, “How you want others to see you” or, “The image you wish to present to others”. You have a private world of your own, and only your most trusted friends will know the inside story. You are the master of pretence. You prefer to hide your feelings in order to retain your self image. You will develop and grow through inner faith and spiritual awareness. Although you want to be loved, you do not want to inflict your suffering onto others. Instead you project an image of your own creation where others see you as strong and in control. You have come into this world to transcend trauma and hardship. You understand suffering and through compassion you can lift the spirits of others. You radiate a natural healing energy. As you help those who need assistance you will come to understand that everyone needs compassion and understanding.
Health issues can originate from underlying mental or physical fatigue. You are always doing things or correcting things, perhaps doubling up on work and leaving yourself mentally exhausted. Mistakes irritate you. They must be corrected immediately to give you peace of mind. You like things done your way which is the correct way. You will do them yourself and for others if you feel that others cannot do them to your standards, then you will know they are done correctly. You have a compulsive need for perfection and you want everyone to comply with the way you do things. You can put extra pressure on yourself through over-analysing details and constantly re-doing things to meet with your expectations. This can frustrate you because others may not deliver the service according to your standards. You can be too concerned with work, health and efficiency issues. You must learn to unwind and relax your mind from time to time; otherwise you can suffer from physical or mental overload.
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