Part of Spirit signs.


Positive development: self-approval, self-trust, self-discovery and independence.

Negative development: self-doubt in facing fear, confrontation or opposition.

In your social development all you wanted to do was please your friends. By giving in you kept your friends, they made the decisions and you followed. You did as you were told, you did not think you had strength, you were passive and you put yourself down before your friends or others could put you down. You did not like arguments, they overpowered your emotions so you worked on pleasing others in friendship, and to avoid conflict you did as you were told. Other people took it for granted that you would support them and you were placed in situations where you felt you had to be of support; however in the process you could have lost your identity. This may have led to an imbalance in relationships which could have been extremely restrictive. You are learning to overcome your passivity through the battle of constantly meeting the needs of others. When you sacrifice yourself, you lose the ability to be yourself and take control. With maturity you will not work on friendships as you once did and you will be less tolerant of people who expect you to support them. It must be “give and take” otherwise you will detach. You will support people who come to you for help. Then you will let them go. In your developing years you probably lacked confidence resulting in an inner conflict when asking for help or putting yourself first. When you first went out into the world you had to overcome your lack of confidence, you knew you were on your own and you became motivated and independent with a strong inner drive to succeed. You will benefit in life through your leadership ability. You must focus on developing your own identity and integrity and not allow yourself to depend on others for approval. If you develop independence you can action your ideas, support yourself and pioneer new fields. You have the ability to see your direction in life with a strong inner drive to succeed. You should place trust in yourself and let your intuition be your guide. If you initiate new ideas and take the lead you will gain confidence in your abilities and become self-sufficient and inwardly fulfilled.


Positive development: keeping your own power through self validation and establishing yourself according to your values.

Negative development: co-dependency and dependent on the validation or approval of others.

In your social development you were happy enough in your family but you may have felt excluded in certain social areas because others appeared to be more fortunate than you. You could have competed with your sibling(s) for parental affection but you may have felt that your needs were overlooked. If you felt you did not measure up to those around you, you felt “not good enough” and you did not like feeling “second best”. You are open to the world and you have the ability to take things in your stride. Money may be important, but the freedom it gives is more important. You may not go out of your way to help others immediately, but if you really feel someone needs help and you have experienced, or can identify with their needs, then you will help them. You tend to give more than the other person in close relationships; therefore your sense of “self” and values as a separate person can be challenged. It is in your own interest to pull back from intense involvement with others because you can give to the extent of losing your security, values and feelings of self-worth as a separate person. The backlash is that others can try to take more from you than you can give, and they can deplete your resources. You must set your boundaries. Keep something for yourself in reserve. You may be drawn to people who are materialistic, finance driven or in need of assistance, whether psychological or otherwise. You will try to support them to make them feel more secure, but in doing so you can run the risk of losing your own values in their interests. This can distract you from pursuing your goals in a solid and consistent way. It is in your interest to break away from stifling strangleholds and build on your own skills and abilities. Your security is based on self-development which others may challenge. In developing your skills and abilities you can become self-supporting and reduce the risk of others overlooking your values in support of their own interests.


Positive development: listening to other people’s opinions and accepting contradiction in order to understand the truth.

Negative development: self-righteousness with single-minded and/or self-opinionated tendencies. You cannot be right all the time.

In your social development you may have had difficulty in communication, perhaps you felt no one listened to you. You got along with your family and sibling(s) but you may have felt a lack of connection. You can receive one-sided stories that belie the truth. You dislike people who manufacture their own version of the truth. You tend to form your own opinions through listening to your intuition. You like to know the truth of what is going on in the minds of other’s, you do not enjoy the company of false or superficial people who sidestep the truth. You try to keep communication links open to deal with daily problems, but you will learn a great deal through the duality of dialogue. You must learn to listen to other people’s viewpoints and opinions with an open mind even if they do not fit in with your own. You have the ability to read between the lines. Body language speaks, impressions are made and you are observant and intuitive. You are a born analyst and you can detect when mind games are being played around you. If you intuitively feel information is not correct you can harass a point or ask subtle questions to get to the truth; you may not openly confront the person or say anything at the time, instead you may skirt around the edges, observing and taking in what is said. Then you may go away and work things through in your mind. When you sense something is wrong you can play scenarios in your mind of “what could be” and you can convince yourself that what you think is true. You must use integrity and avoid making comments without proof. This is a dual sign and innocent comments can backfire. You should try to be flexible of mind and sensitive to the opinions of others and how they are receiving you. You are highly intuitive and you can sense cover-ups and deceit. You can be like a dog with a bone when your gut feeling senses something is wrong, and it will gnaw away at you until you ferret out the answer. You are subtle, and you will listen, observe and let your intuition guide you. You have the ability to tune into the motives of others and you can detect mind games. When you sense mind games are being played; listen to others more carefully and take into consideration all the nuances and angles. Do not make flippant remarks because this is a dual energy and comments can backfire. You can be an innocent bystander, you may not say much but words can have an effect.


Positive development: creating a domestic environment that is caring, nurturing and loving, resulting in a sense of belonging.

Negative development: holding grudges and invalidating the feelings of others. Everyone needs to feel cared for, nurtured and loved.

In your social development you may have felt different or distanced in the family to which you were born, or you may have had difficulty in developing an emotional connection, perhaps you felt you did not fit in. Family approval was important to you because you needed to feel a sense of belonging, but the bottom line was that you felt different, distanced or emotionally removed in some way from other family members. Your family may have visited friends or relatives where you felt a detached kind of caring, or you may have had other family issues to deal with in which you felt you had to be responsible, or give support. You may have found it difficult to show your emotions and feelings or you did not know how to show the way you felt. You grew up quickly but there may have been certain differences in your family, possibly in parental love and care. Between the ages of seven to thirteen, and owing to other family concerns, you may have felt your emotional needs and feelings were overlooked. You wanted to belong and you tried so hard to belong, to feel approved of. However your family may have had other family issues to deal with, and you could have felt some emotional discord through family problems. You may have felt that one of your parents was distant and aloof, perhaps unable to show emotional support. You could have felt the split divisions within your family in your growing-up years and you may have tried to make things better because you were sensitive to family discord. In close relationships you will try to carry out your domestic duties, caring and nurturing (female) or providing (male), but you may feel you receive little respect for the support you give; it is just expected of you. You may cling to security through an inner need to build a loving family environment. Although your family is important and you had family issues to deal with, you may look back over your childhood and feel sad about the hurts, or the things you couldn’t control or do anything about. As you mature, if your family needs help, you will help, but not on an emotional level. You will not be cruel or unkind, you are a caring person, but you will not support other family members in their conflicts between you and/or other family members. You will give the solutions and the tools to help your family if they need you, but without emotional involvement. You may feel inwardly sad about their circumstances, but through past family hurts you will learn to set your boundaries. You are suitable in any profession that gives you the opportunity to emotionally or mentally care for and support others. This gives you a sense of fulfilment. If you learn to release the negative energy of the past you can transform family relationships. You will learn to take control of your life through developing kindness and gentleness when dealing with the feelings and emotions of others. You will try to build strong foundations in your life in order to bring security to loved ones, and through this you will gain an inner sense of security and a feeling of control.


Positive development: creating your own happiness, self- encouragement.

Negative development: fear of reaching out to love for fear of being hurt. Low self-image, pretentiousness to impress, dependant on adulation.

In your social development, you may have felt that you could not express the child within in playful fun. There could have been primary social distinctions in certain social circles or groups which left you feeling alone. You wanted recognition and you vied for it, but you had to understand certain social differences. You have a great need for love, recognition and adoration, yet you may have felt unrecognised for your creative self-expression. You may feel blocked, overlooked, ignored or socially inadequate when reaching out to others. You may feel no one sees your inner love or takes any notice of you. If love is not reinforced you can feel deeply hurt and you can turn within and block your “inner child” in the expression of love. You may find it hard to mingle and difficult to respond to others in playful social activity. You are not a touchy-feely person and you can block spontaneous love, yet all you deeply desire is to feel the warmth of love around you. However you find it difficult to express your true self in case you get hurt. You instinctively spend time objectively observing and watching others interact, and you will naturally encourage and promote their objectives, fun and creativity. You may find yourself constantly energising the dreams and aspirations of others in order to bring them happiness, but in doing so you can cover your own feelings because you desire recognition for what you give and do. However you find it difficult to reach out in love which blocks the spontaneity of feeling in close intimate relationships. This can affect your feelings of love and pleasure in life. You may feel as if you are being challenged to keep your inner faith, but deep down faith fluctuates and life’s challenge can cause an inner fear and outer struggle in the giving and receiving of love. You may feel uncertain as to how others are going to respond to you when you express the playful fun of the child within, or you may find yourself in circumstances that negate playful fun and enjoyment. You are good at doing everything for everyone else, but it seems that doing something for yourself in the fun department seems to somehow escape you. You must work through your own issues and reunite with others, reach out in love and become more involved in the enjoyment of life. When you see other people enjoying themselves you observe them in the enjoyment of playful fun. You have a strong desire to be loved and you have so much love to give, but reaching out can be a challenge. You must learn to let your guard down and reach out to others, then you will feel inwardly fulfilled and people will warm to you and love you.


Positive development: setting your own work routines, living by the rules and bringing your ideas to fruition. Work routines structure reality.

Negative development: overly sensitive with a tendency to seek reassurance from others to overcome feelings of helplessness.

In your social development you may have had to conform to certain standards of behaviour. As a child you paid attention to correct behaviour. If you saw something you didn’t agree with you tended to speak out but you could have been reprimanded. You may have felt that you did not receive the recognition you wanted because you thought too much attention was given to others. You could have been attention seeking but your parents did their best. You felt it was your duty to do as you were told, and you probably placed high expectations on yourself to do exactly that. However, when standards are too high, the tendency is to give up. You may have felt responsible for anything that went wrong within the family, especially to the people who were close to you. You tended to take things personally and you could have been excessively hard on yourself over right and wrong, perhaps placing blame on yourself, or others, if you thought the level of behaviour was unacceptable to you, or according to the standard. You are aware of the feelings of others, and you do not wish to inflict pain, also you have true humility and you do not consider yourself superior in any way. You have a strong inner drive to correct anything around you that is not operating according to the standard. However others can consider this as interference and retaliate through direct confrontation or competition. You are very sensitive, and when facing competition or retaliation you can become inwardly upset which can result in heightened sensitivity and anxiety, plus you can become the victim of your own inner worries. When a crisis situation arises you must fight your tendency to interfere or criticise out of hand, instead you should support others in a practical and constructive way. You may receive little credit or recognition for the work you do, or the advice you give. You should shift your attention away from your inner sensitivity and your inner concerns over “what might be”, and learn to give a helping hand in a constructive way. You can criticise others because you tend to worry over small details, but you are a hard worker. You should learn to alleviate your inner tension through dealing with current issues as they arise instead of worrying about them. As an adult you will probably work to a high standard, but if you are dissatisfied or bored with your work, you may consider that life should not revolve around work (there are more enjoyable things to do outside work). However, you will probably weigh up the pros’ and cons’ and create a practical working base for yourself.


Positive development: inner strength and independence. You are a fair-minded mediator who extends the hand of friendship to those in need of support.

Negative development: inferior and co-dependent. You tend to over compensate in order to keep in with friends and/or partners. You may feel you cannot depend on others, they must depend on you.

In your social development you had a harmonious nature unless you saw someone unjustifiably hurt. Then you stepped in. When the line was crossed you made a stand on principle. You may have lost friends through this, but with justification. You hold back sorrows because you do not wish to burden other people with your problems. You know what it is like to feel put down and unsupported. However, you feel driven to stand up for those who need support, and you will help those who operate within strict guidelines. You will try to get them to look beyond their circumstances, to integrate a wider understanding. People who narrow their views do themselves a great disservice; you always look at the bigger picture, the wider view to gain a better understanding, and you give good advice. You don’t mind going along with others because you appreciate the effects of harmonious energy. When you unselfishly support other people you feel a sense of togetherness which brings you many friends. You are skilled in balancing situations and making other people feel better, but you must avoid losing your own independence in support of others. You need people to appreciate the support you give, but they can be unappreciative and take you for granted. You are a good diplomat and counsellor and you can uplift and inspire others to reach their goals. You are personally aware of the inner friendliness and harmony that resides in you. This draws other people to you and gives you a feeling of inner confidence. You will try to use your inner qualities and skills to help others establish themselves and their goals and achieve happiness in their lives. If you accomplish this you will gain a sense of inner peace. However, you can give too much to others, and place yourself under pressure through taking on their burdens at the expense of your own wellbeing. You must learn to set your own boundaries and share equally. You know that energy flows in agreement, and you have the ability to maintain harmonious feelings in most situations. Although you strive for friendship, you must learn to balance give and take.


Positive development: you have to go out there and do it! Will-power and spiritual understanding will give you the strength to transform your values connected to deep sharing, such as shared interests and resources.

Negative development: life is viewed in terms of power. You have an internal issue with power and an exaggerated sense of entitlement when you feel insecure. The misuse of trust to “equal the score” can lead you into intense power struggles.

In your social development, childhood fears may have caused you to stand back in certain situations. You want to be involved with other people but you need to feel deep within yourself that other people want you to be involved. You place an emphasis on helping others without becoming emotionally involved. You feel compassion, but you don’t feel it is your responsibility to take other people’s problems on board, only to be there. You may pool your energy and resources with others but you must develop your potential for self-development because you have an inner drive to be the best that you can. You may have a terrible fear of failure and a strong desire to correct circumstances where you are not using your full potential. On the path to unfoldment you may feel that you are constantly involved in situations connected to other people’s values or resources, which are difficult to accept or change. Others can assume power over you and disrupt or block your forward movement in areas of work or shared interests through manipulation which can result in highly charged power struggles. You can be involved with people who rival you or try to exert power over you to gain advantage; should this happen, your inner shield of defence surfaces. Trust does not come easily. You need verification that you can trust. You should enjoy what you are doing; if you are not happy in your work and/or with associates or relationships, then get out. You must feel loved and accepted for “who you are” by those who are closely involved with you. Then you will feel a sense of trust. You will evolve through doing your own thing and doing it well. With maturity you will grow into your own power through doing things on your own and being proud of your personal successes, whatever they are. You can bring the best out in others because you are a natural analyst and you have the ability to intuitively feel what others are thinking, discern their intentions and clearly see their objectives. You can be drawn to those who are involved in some form of change and you will try to help them achieve their objectives, but you should be aware of the fact that people can rival you or take advantage. You should not be satisfied with taking second place. You should become self-motivated and self-sufficient, only then you will feel proud of your accomplishments.


Positive development: you do not like superficiality; you need to deal with the facts. Honest communication is an essential ingredient in all relationships.

Negative development: obligated to relatives. You can be easily swayed by gossip. You can be highly suggestable and depend on rumour as a basis for truth. Consider this: words can be dishonest, they can defame, they can hurt and they can backfire.

In your social development you may have been placed in situations where you had to speak up socially. Teachers may have seemed unfeeling and you may not have felt confident enough to speak for yourself. You have a philosophical approach to life with a strong drive to expand on knowledge. You will gain a higher education if it serves a valid role to your future goals. You intuitively sense if a person is genuine or not; you can sense vibrations, and your intuition is well developed. You respect the truth, but if people are not willing to listen when you are speaking the truth, or they block you off, then you will pull back and let go. You may feel you are wasting your time with some people but you will say what you have to say. Whether they listen to your advice or not is up to them. You try to avoid people who are dishonest, yet the world is not a perfect place. You do not like surface talk. You prefer to learn through factual communications. You are naturally intuitive and you have excellent listening skills. You listen to the meaning behind the words and respond with intuition. If you act in truth you will draw the right people to you to gain the honesty you seek in friendships/relationships. You have a strong desire to address the truth. You want people around you to understand the truth, accept it and support one another in it. When the truth is spoken situations become clear. When your gut feeling tells you that the truth is not spoken, follow your intuition. You can be constantly challenged in matters of duplicity and dishonesty. When you ignore integrity and become involved in gossip, opinions or the mindsets of others you can become confused and misled. Some people mislead, tell lies and cover-up to protect themselves, but if they should tell lies that impact on you or other people’s lives then you will confront the situation. However this can backfire because you can say things that can embarrass and it is through your honesty that people can single you out, or set you up in a bid to discredit you. When you have a situation on your hands, you will analyse it from different facets and angles, taking all factors into consideration. You have an inherent gift for sensing the playacts and mindsets of others and this gives you the ability to sense the probable outcome of any given situation. You need to be true to yourself. If you know the truth and withhold it, then you are not being true to yourself and you can mislead others. This can backfire further down the track. You have heightened intuition, you are open, honest and direct in your approach to life with an understanding of the natural laws of justice.


Positive development: you have a strong ability to take responsibility. You are dependable and reliable and you will be recognised and respected for your steadfast approach to responsibility and duty.

Negative development: you can feel unworthy with low self-esteem, lack of organisational skill, fear of authority and fear of failure.

In your social development you may have sat back taking mental notes or absorbing what was going on around you. You may have played on the outer edges of group participation at primary school and you may have felt somewhat removed from your family through a parent who appeared remote or unemotional. You had to learn at an early age to be responsible and carry responsibility for your family. You could have felt that you were suppressed in your social development and you did not speak out of line for fear of the consequences.

You will keep developing over the years, wherever you are in life you are developing self-esteem and self-confidence. You will find yourself placed in situations where you will have to deal with matters of self-esteem. You will place yourself in challenging situations and you will see them through. You may feel that other people do things better than you, so you tend to go along with them. However, at some stage in your life, a good shake up will make you take responsibility in order to develop and grow. You tend to give in to others because it is easier to give in than put up with the battles that revolve around control and organisation. However, you can be placed in bullying situations where you do as you are told to avoid the drama. You may not push yourself forwards because you do not want to offend others, but you must learn to take charge and assume full responsibility for your actions. If you pursue goals that are important to you and live by them, you will gain the assurance you need to take responsibility. You can excel in sole charge or managerial positions but you can doubt your competence which can limit opportunity. You must understand that everyone needs some assistance to reach their goals but you may not push yourself forward through self-doubt and suppressed self-esteem. Face your doubts, acknowledge yourself, commit to a goal, follow through and when you succeed feel the confidence. You may reflect back over the past, how your life has been, where you are, and how you feel about it. Being responsible gives you a sense of being in control of “who you are”. You will progress in life through forced situations. When something major happens, something traumatic or dramatic, you will realise that you have the ability to take control of your destiny, become your own person and achieve.


Positive development: you are humane with a desire for equal rights and equality for all people. You are willing to actively participate in causes, companies or a career for the good of society.

Negative development: You have a strong need for social approval yet you can have issues with the “so-called” titled, privileged, respected or elite who presume to segregate class, race, colour and creed.

In your social development, circumstances over which you had little control may have affected your social extension and identity. You may have felt an inconsistency in the flow of love and affection between family members or in friendship through the diverse combination of influences that surrounded you in your childhood. You tried to fit in because you wanted to feel accepted, but you felt in and out of favour according to the emotional swings; nothing was constant and you did not know what to expect next. Other people’s expectations could have been inconsistent with sudden outbursts or changes of favour that could have been upsetting. Perhaps one of your parents was detached, or not always there for you. You may have reached out in friendship, but through the diverse circumstances of your youth you had to learn to depend on yourself. You may have found it difficult to fit in socially. Perhaps you had social differences to deal with that challenged you as a social being and made you try harder than others to be friendly. Childhood events may have spun your life around, nothing seemed predictable, but the events may have taken you on a spiral upwards as you learned to become independent, to stand alone and not depend on anyone or anything to remain constant. You are discovering “who you are” as a unique individual; to do this you must experience unpredictability in your environment. You will learn to take opportunity in the social structure that surrounds you to advance in your goals and establish your individuality. Other people’s goals and objectives can block or disrupt your goals and objectives where leave-takings and/or new associations or directions can be taken. You will learn that the less you depend on other people, the smoother running your life will be because you are learning to depend on yourself. You are a humanitarian and you will try to fulfil other people’s visions and ideals for the benefit of everyone, but this can backfire and relationships can destabilise through the dictates of people who inhibit your forward movement. Many times you will feel as if you are going against the odds. When you are pressured to conform socially you are not averse to challenging the status quo. At times your controversial behaviour and rebellious outbursts can be unexpected, ill conceived, embarrassing and inappropriately timed unless you learn to temper your more extreme impulses. You should try to become more objective. You enjoy spending time with like-minded people, openly expressing your unorthodox ideas and visions. This allows you to progress. You can open up new ideologies and use your determination to carry your ideas into the public arena to move forward. Your gift is in your unconventionality and your ability to understand the importance of individual rights and freedom for everyone. You are not bound by the blueprint for your existence. Diversity is the spice of life. It makes human beings more interesting.


Positive development: you have a basic concern with health and welfare, especially your own. You are kind and gentle and you attract people in need of help and understanding.

Negative development: you can be too hard on yourself and you may think, “Who would want me anyway?” When problems are extremely difficult to solve, you can become the victim or the saviour, the choice is yours.

In your social development you may have attracted people in need of help. You are here to help those in need. A pattern in your behaviour is to rescue others. The question is; do you help others because you are in rescue mode, or because you feel guilty if you do not help where you can? This is a two-way internal energy that you must resolve. You have boundaries but others don’t see your boundaries. They are wide and indefinable in terms of time, listening and helping others out. You try to see the best in people, but at times your judgement can be cloudy and you don’t quite get the full measure of the person. You will always try to help but whether others accept your help is entirely up to them. You try to plant good and positive seeds in the minds of others and if they are the right seeds at the time then so be it. You have an inner drive to remain positive but you can absorb negative emotions from negative people which can affect you deeply. You can take negativity for a certain length of time after which you must get away, otherwise negative energy can absorb you and affect your health. Under extreme circumstances, negative people can really drain your energy and make you feel quite ill. This is when you need to get away. You tend to bottle your feelings and play scenarios in your imagination with the ending as you would like it to be. This creates inner peace and successfully sidesteps reality, but you must face reality. You do not want to burden others with your problems, you prefer to suffer in silence and keep your private crosses to yourself. You will only reveal your true suffering to those you fully trust, and only when you cannot resolve your own problems. You may allow others to use you and you can become a martyr, but you have boundaries and if others cross the line you will withdraw your help and feel it was all a waste of time. People have their consequences in what they do, or do not do. You find it difficult to say “No” to requests for help. If you do say “No”, you can become critical of yourself and feel guilty for having said “No”. Therefore others can take advantage of you. You tend to worry over “what might be” and you do not relax easily. You feel confident when everything is under control and progressing, but when something outside your control or unexpected occurs you can become unfocused and/or sidetracked. You can go down roads where you think in the negative. This can lead to a downward spiral unless you pull yourself out, or let go. Your imagination is powerful and it can dominate negative or uncontrollable situations. You can internally catastrophise, suffer meltdown or imagine the worst possible case scenarios with a feeling of falling apart. Do not allow yourself to become the victim of your own imagination. You are health conscious but you can be sensitive to drugs, including those that are medically prescribed. Therefore you will monitor your intake to gain maximum control. You place high expectations on yourself in connection to discipline, control, work and duty. You must learn to be compassionate towards yourself and set times aside for therapeutic relaxation.