Part of Fate signs

THE CONSCIOUS MIND”

THE CHALLENGE

PART OF FATE IN ARIES

Keywords: sensitive, confident, reassuring, encouraging, strong, supportive, warm and loving.

You are on the path to self-discovery in finding “who you are”.

Your challenge is to strengthen your identity and become more assertive. Then you can be independent, take control and achieve.

You can lack confidence which can result in a reluctance to put yourself first, or ask for help. You work on friendships because you want to please friends, and by giving right of way you feel you keep friends and the status quo. Your friends tend to decide for you and you oblige, but you may be left feeling denied and not really important enough to be accepted for “who you are”. You can be passive and easily led and you tend to put yourself last. You do not always stand up for yourself and others can take advantage of you while you are supporting them. You help others because it makes you feel needed, but you can feel a lack of love and acknowledgement within yourself.

Through experience you will begin to help for different reasons. You will not work on friendships in the way you once did. You will be less tolerant towards those who depend on you for support. It must be give and take otherwise you will detach. In the past you may have gone along with others and what they have wanted without thinking about yourself and your needs. Your challenge is to stop giving right of way in order to avoid conflict. You must stand up for yourself and learn to say, “This is what I want”. You may feel you have to be the strength for others and play a supportive role, but in the process you can lose your identity. This can lead to one-sided relationships. The only way you can gain inner satisfaction is to consider yourself. After all, you are the only person who knows exactly what you want. If you do not do this, you will feel overlooked and inwardly lonely, in other words on your own. You are supportive of people who come to you for help, but you should only be supportive to a certain point; then let them go.

You may have faced a lonely time when you first went into the world independently. This may have been a difficult time for you because you were “on your own” and you knew you were alone to depend on yourself. You should not allow your sense of “self” to depend on others for approval. Instead you should develop your own identity, integrity and leadership skills. Your path will be much easier if you place your trust in yourself and take the lead in order to obtain the things you want. Then you will become self-sufficient and inwardly strong and independent. In your passivity you may have faced some overpowering arguments that could have ripped you up emotionally and you may have surrendered to avoid conflict. Being passive is not the way. You need to understand that constant surrender for the sake of other people’s needs and/or happiness is unacceptable. You need to develop the courage to stand up for yourself, take the initiative and pursue the path you know to be correct for you.

PART OF FATE IN TAURUS

Keywords: productive, supportive, generous, dependable, steady and fixed of purpose.

You are on the path to self-discovery as a separate person.

Your challenge is to validate yourself in order to gain a sense of self-worth. This will allow you to live according to “your values”.

You can lose your resources through other people’s values but you will learn through this. You will help others, but you will not go out of your way to help those who do not use practical methods to help themselves. You will not throw your resources down a drain. If you merge too closely with others you can lose your values in their values and give away too much. When you fall blindly in love or look at the world through rose coloured lenses, you can lose your values and sense of self-worth. For instance, when people make you feel special, you can give far too much and this can backfire. The true intentions of others can be hidden; people can show you kindness, gain your trust and “rip you off” financially or psychologically, depending on the circumstances. You will learn that if you give too much, you risk losing your values as a separate person. You may associate with people who are finance driven, psychologically manipulative or in difficult circumstances. You will try to help them, but in supporting them you run the risk of losing your ability to develop and/or build firm foundations. Your challenge is to impose limitations on exactly how much you are prepared to give across the board.

You have another side to your personality that is very deep and secretive. You will not tell anyone about your deep and private issues. This part of you is not shared. You will only share what you want others to see. You will only do things because you want to do them and only if they are worthwhile. You will contribute resources when you believe in the person that you are contributing to. In relationships your ideal is to support in equal share. From experience you know that if you give too much you can be “ripped off”. It takes a long time for you to trust. This is a natural inborn caution. However, when you do give your trust you know you can trust. You are fully aware that people who are close to you can take from you and you know that if you help them it will make a difference, but you have a choice. You should only give within your limits. If you feel that you are being taken advantage of then “cut”. You are an excellent psychologist and deep down you understand the motives behind other people’s actions, but it is in your best interest to pull back from intense involvement with other people. The disappointment you feel is when you give your love and trust to others they push the boundaries too far and take more than you can give.

PART OF FATE IN GEMINI

Keywords: impressionable, adaptable, imaginative, knowledgeable, curious and communicative.

You are on the path to self discovery through social interaction.

Your challenge is to rejoin society and become less self-opinionated and more conversant. There are two sides to every story and you need to become more open minded when listening to the ideas and opinions of others.

You have an active and enquiring mind with a focus on detail. You can get caught in double-standards or mind games if you don’t pull yourself away. You can exaggerate the truth but not in a deliberate attempt to manipulate or harm. You are naturally curious and you have a strong drive to find the truth in any situation where you instinctively feel that something is going on behind your back. Mind games or manipulative actions can be played to hide the truth, but you have a detective’s mind and you will invent a way of finding the truth, even if you have to coerce or mentally manipulate the person/people concerned. People around you can say things that can set up differences of attitude or opinion between you and those closely associated with you. Through gossip or misrepresentation you can fall into disrepute but you have an inquisitive mind. Information can be gained from different sources and you will ferret out the truth to clear your name. You can see the Jeckle and Hyde in people. You observe the difference. You may not say anything at the time but you will take mental notes. You consciously pick up on the mindsets of others, but you must use your integrity when dealing with defamation of character or manipulative mind-games. When you sense something is wrong you can re-enact the situation in your mind, or play out mental scenarios of all the possibilities revolving around the matter. However you should not jump to conclusions without factual evidence because you can make statements out of hand and this can lead to retaliation further down the track. You can hang yourself on the gossip vine through making flippant comments which can backfire and cause retaliation or possible setups. Your challenge is to use integrity when choosing to pass comment. You are highly intuitive and when you sense something is wrong and you don’t know what it is, it will gnaw away at you until you reach a conclusion. You will scrutinise everything because you are inquisitive and you “have to know”, you will not rest until you analyse all the whys and wherefores of any situation that bothers you. You can become like a dog with a bone until you settle the matter in your mind. You will be challenged through the setups and mindsets of others. You must learn to become less involved in mind/power-games that are played around you to win favour or control. Words are powerful and they can backfire, they can be harmful and they can destroy. This you know only too well. People who play an important role in your life can set you up or stab you in the back and if you should try to correct the situation they will not see things your way. This can leave you feeling deceived and deeply hurt. You can carry a lot of inner pain through setups and double standards. With experience you will try not to get involved in mind-games. They can be so destructive. You must learn to use integrity when facing duplicity.

PART OF FATE IN CANCER

Keywords: sympathetic, sentimental, emotional, security-conscious, thrifty and self-protective.

You are on the path to self-discovery through building strong foundations.

Your challenge is to be honest about your emotions and feelings rather than being the scapegoat or victim of emotional control.

Family approval is extremely important to you and you may do all you can to create close family bonds. However other people’s family issues can cause hidden resentment over family love and care. You have a very strong need to belong, but you can feel unrecognised if you feel other family members belong more than you do. You can feel hurt, overlooked or removed if family favour or approval is denied you. You have a challenge. Your strong need for family approval, wanting to feel an integral part of the family accentuates your fear of not feeling an integral part of the family. This can affect you on a deep emotional level. When you feel hurt you can live in your emotions and suffer long after the event. A certain amount of negativity may have been placed on you as a child and this may have had a deep effect on your attitude to family life. You may feel you did not gain the recognition you sought or you were not recognised for being yourself. In order to feel bonded you tried to get close to your family or extended family to gain a sense of acceptance or approval. You wanted favour but you may have felt that other family members overlooked your feelings, or they may have had issues that impacted on you and challenged your family position. You have a strong drive to hold the family together and you will never totally sever family ties, although intermittent separations can occur. When you feel hurt you can withdraw from contact, but deep down you know family bonds can never be broken. You can hold grudges and relive your pain when you are feeling down or hurt, but you do care very deeply for your family, so much so that you can overly concern yourself with family slights that can lead to negative feelings and reactions. Your challenge is to stand on your own two feet; otherwise you will be emotionally controlled by family circumstances or expectations. In times of weakness you may feel that you cannot depend on family support because family can let you down. When you become aware of the nurturing love that resides in you and build your own foundations in a solid and constructive way, you will gain a sense of inner security and free yourself from emotionally controlling situations.

PART OF FATE IN LEO

Keywords: self-centred, showy, proud, magnanimous, radiant, dignified, generous and vital.

You are on the path to self-discovery through regaining your life-force.

Your challenge is to acknowledge yourself, regain your power and flow in your own creation.

You became aware of childhood distinctions which may have affected you on a deep level, and through this you may suppress your feelings and emotions, or impose your own distinctions on others to protect yourself from your feelings of social inadequacy.

In your childhood, social distinctions may have been placed on you for various reasons and you could have felt as if you were “not good enough”. You may have wanted what others had because you wanted to feel socially accepted. You may have been taught to appreciate correct conduct and presentation but you could have felt downgraded through circumstance so you tried to prove yourself. You became aware of social differences because it seemed that other people openly communicated social differences in a comparative way. You may have found it difficult to respond to others in play activities; you preferred organised activities. You wanted recognition but you may have felt your friends had more than you and through this you did not like taking centre stage. You tended to stand back and you observed those who expressed themselves in social fun. You may not have felt accepted by others and you could have felt uncertain about taking friends home because you did not know how friends would be received by your family. You have a fear of being “knocked back” or hurt; therefore you may pull away from close contact or hide your feelings. You want love but you may find it difficult to flow in love. You tend to select friends who need help and they will help you in their own way but they can become a dominant force. You may not acknowledge yourself socially because you find it difficult to reach out to others or you feel you can’t enjoy yourself unless everyone else around you is happy; therefore you place everyone else’s happiness ahead of your own. You can feel ignored and overlooked by others with little notice taken of you. You have a great need to be loved, yet no one gets to see your inner light because you cannot express your love which makes it difficult for you to feel connected. You may feel no one has ever really known you, loved you or recognised you and this can make you feel cut off from those you love. You consciously want others to see your inner beauty, recognise you and adulate you for “who you are” but love seems to evade you and when love is not reinforced you can turn within. You are extremely artistic or creative, but it seems that other people get recognition or adulation ahead of you while you receive less. You can carry a lot of pain in your heart because you do everything for everyone else while the fun in life seems to escape you. While the outer expression of love fails, the inner expression of love radiates, and through this you will come to realise that the truest expression of love is in the life-force of creation.

PART OF FATE IN VIRGO

Keywords: practical, analytical, observant, critical, helpful and supportive.

You are on the path to self-discovery through eliminating fear.

Your challenge is to develop confidence in order to gain self-sufficiency rather than falling victim to helplessness. Through practical application and hard work you can set goals and reach your objectives.

In self-sufficiency you will not “fall apart” when others let you down.

You have a strong inner drive to attain perfection and success in your work. You place high standards on yourself which can become a burden because you have an inner urge to change and improve standards in your striving for perfection. Therefore you can double the work load through constant corrections. Although you set very high standards for yourself, you do not enforce them on others. However you will encourage others to attain high standards. You can be judgemental of shoddy work, but you are harder on yourself than you are on others. You don’t like being wrong and when you make a mistake you can be very hard on yourself. Work problems can be all consuming. If something is affecting you and you fail to come up with the solution to solve the problem you can become worried until you resolve the problem. You are intelligent. If you see someone needs a helping hand you will help them, but they may consider your help as interference. The hurt is that you want to improve work standards. You make an effort to be correct and you give the impression that you are correct; this invites others to criticise you or find fault. You have a quick-thinking mind and you think of all the possibilities or answers before anyone else. People can use you to serve them then they can turn things around and take your credits because they think you may take over. It hurts to think that all you are trying to do is to improve work efficiency. You will help others where you can, but they can take advantage of you. Work can be used against you or taken away if you appear to be taking control. Your challenge is to set your own boundaries and make a stand for your rights in work; you must not allow others to take advantage of you because they will give you little credit for your services. When you are under pressure at work you can think of all the things that can go wrong; you constantly analyse situations and you can think of ridiculous things that may happen; you may not tell anyone because you keep your thoughts to yourself. You can play the worst possible case scenarios in your mind and project your worries onto future goals in anticipation of disappointment. Should this happen then you are prepared, but should you succeed then that’s a bonus. You do not like being around sick people, perhaps you feel inadequate. However if the person needs your help, you will be practical and research the illness and deal with the situation. You do not like muddle, but you tend to work in organised muddle. Work can play on your mind and you may consciously think about the jobs and duties you have to do or worry about them until they are completed.

In social situations you can be fussy about dress and you will dress appropriately for the occasion. You like to be at your best across the board, but especially in your work. If you do not meet your own standards you can feel inwardly disappointed and resolve to do better in the future. You can be challenged by people who try to block your path to success.

PART OF FATE IN LIBRA

Keywords: cooperative, diplomatic, tactful, supportive, sharing, fair-minded and friendly.

You are on the path of balance through supportive sharing.

Your challenge is to step into another’s shoes and allow them to feel the pleasure of supportive sharing. You have a tendency to give your support to others without considering their needs and feelings. Relationships can become unbalanced until you learn to balance “give and take”.

Balancing relationships can be difficult because you give in support of others to keep the peace, but this can backfire with your needs overlooked. You may feel you have to give your all to have any kind of friendship/relationship. You may put 150% into relationships to show that you are worthy and not a burden, but you may not receive positive feedback; instead you may feel very alone and isolated in close friendships/relationships. In the past, unspoken disapproval may have crushed you which could have made it difficult for you to have genuine friendships and relationships. You may attract people who are your opposite, dominant and selfish. Sharing relationships can be one-sided, with you giving in support to keep the peace, while the other person is busy pursuing his/her own interests. You can give your power away in relationships because you are unselfish, but you may set yourself up and pay the price for an ideal. Your needs and feelings can go unnoticed and you may feel as if you are just there to keep relationships going, trapped in situation(s) and catering to the needs of others; this can make you feel overlooked and resentful. You need to feel supported and acknowledged for your contribution in relationships. Instead others may take your credit while you give them support. You may feel others want to take control for their own selfish gain, and because you try to keep the peace you can give away your power and play into their hands. You may think that if you do not do as you are told you may create an imbalance, so you fit yourself into situation(s) to feel accepted. One-way giving in relationships must be brought under control; you may try to compensate by acting opposite to what you want in order to avoid conflict.

You will not be made to feel a burden on anyone. You would rather be on your own, and you will break relationships if you feel you are a burden. You consciously reach out to others in harmony because you need to relate to others in friendship. You do this naturally to create a feeling of togetherness and it is from this angle that you play the supportive role. You have a natural inner tranquillity that succeeds in lifting the spirits of those who seek your counsel.

Your challenge is to know how much you should give before overstepping the mark, otherwise you can be used. Selfless giving can backfire. Other people can perceive you as being strong because you tend to support everyone around you, therefore, when you need support others can overlook your needs because they are used to you being strong.

You must consider your needs, look after yourself and accept and acknowledge support from others.

Relationships can only be balanced when support is accepted and acknowledged equally.

PART OF FATE IN SCORPIO

Keywords: past habit patterns, intimate connections, psychological analysis, deep investigation, transformation and change.

You are on the path to self-empowerment through empowering others.

Your challenge is to let go of dependency (needing other people to provide for your security). You must learn the difference between selfish values and stagnation, or shared values and transformation.

You may feel you did not receive much affection in your childhood. Perhaps you did not bond with one parent or you had a distorted bonding with the other parent, possibly because the other parent had to play a protective role in the family due to family circumstances. You sensed the underlying forces that surrounded you which made you hide your fears. You may have reached out to higher dimensions of thought to take away your pain. You may have felt lonely in your family and you were unable to share your problems. You have to understand the loneliness you feel is not yours, that every thought and action in the past was under the control of others. You have to work through the things you were unable to share in order to understand. You have layers and layers of stuff to remove, but as you understand and evolve beyond the past you will stop blaming yourself and reach clarity. As a child you came from an adult perspective. You may have felt you matured in a different way to other children because of the inner pain you felt in your childhood. You may not have felt free to enjoy life as other children did. You may have felt that you had no one to turn to who was able to listen or understand, and if they did, what could they do. It seemed there was no one to turn to. One of your parents could have created destruction in the family which pervaded everything; thoughts, energy, behaviour, everything may have been distorted. You felt you survived your childhood through a self-protective shield. Your trust may have been broken by those so close to you again and again and again, well into your adult life. Once you may have been trusting and you looked at the good side in others, but through the painful experience of broken trust and betrayal you may have developed a buried cynicism. Once trust is broken it cannot be mended and it is dangerous to even try; people don’t change, they seem to add more damage to the pain they have already inflicted. Your thoughts are deeply analytical because you feel inwardly abandoned with no one to turn to. Your mind sees a higher level of awareness where you have access to higher realms of understanding where solace can be found in the painful, unbearable and deeply complex experiences of your existence. You tend to attract troubled people, lost souls or people who can’t love. Once you understand the depths of their problems you will help them transform. If someone wants to be reached psychologically then you will be there to help them. Through the depth of experience your mind goes to a different plane and you access the higher realms where you have inner hope tempered with reality. This helps you to rise above despair. You cannot move forward until you unearth the reason why the repeated suffering and loss in various situations of your life has occurred. You may be drawn to different types of occultism in your search for answers because you cannot rest until you solve, at least, to some extent the mystery of life and death, and the purpose of your existence. Your challenge is to transform your inner self through accessing the higher planes of existence where you can connect with the higher self.

It is through connecting with your higher-self that you will physically and psychologically release that which has passed away and move on.

PART OF FATE IN SAGITTARIUS

Keywords: intuition, higher-awareness, inner-faith, justice, philosophy, education and universal law.

You are following the path of intuition.

Your challenge is to listen to your intuition, be true to yourself and place your faith in the universal laws which are mightier than the manipulative mind. Let your intuition guide you through the duality of dialogue.

Your challenge is to listen to your intuition. For example, if a person asks you to tell the truth about their looks. Are they asking you for honest feedback, or emotional support? Let your intuition be your guide!

You have a conscious desire to understand the truth when challenged by duplicity or dishonesty and you will go as far as you can to reach a just and honest conclusion, even if you have to “rock a few boats” on the way. You may go around the back way and say what has to be said or take a more direct approach, depending on the circumstances.

You do your best not to control others, and likewise you do not like others to control you, yet this is an area in which you may have trouble in relationships. You are likely to experience problems concerning matters of dishonesty and loss of freedom. You may feel you are constantly trying to see the other person’s point of view and doing your best to accommodate that view, but you are also aware of the fact that you need to live and speak your own truth. You may find yourself constantly giving your freedom away to your parents, your sibling(s), your partner; everyone. You give everyone freedom while they do as they wish, and you suffer the consequences. In one way you don’t mind because you understand how very important it is to give other people their freedom. However you can attract partners whose outside interests dominate, or who are not fully committed. You may feel as if you are constantly giving your freedom to others. If you don’t make a stand for your own truth then you are not being true to yourself. This can lead to misunderstandings and resentment further down the track.

You can see the “rights” and “wrongs” in relationships. Sometimes it is wiser for a person to separate than feel bound to a relationship. Freedom is important and if it is not forthcoming then relationships can break. You have your own philosophical belief, “Allow yourself to set them free, if they come back it’s meant to be”.

You do not accept falsehoods, double standards or mind-games and if this should happen you will walk away. You enjoy debating the depths of philosophy with open-minded people who emphasise, “Live and let live”.

PART OF FATE IN CAPRICORN

Keywords: disciplined, responsible, ambitious, controlled, ethically correct and status-conscious.

You are on the self-supportive path to self respect and recognition.

Your challenge is to depend on yourself, take responsibility and achieve through your own merit.

You have issues with trust, loyalty and self-esteem. You try to prove yourself, yet you may not feel recognised or receive the acknowledgement you deserve for what you do. You may feel you have to uphold a position. Family expectations are important, but you may feel that others are recognised ahead of you. Life is not free of obligations and you are only too willing to carry your responsibilities although you may not feel recognised for your efforts. You may feel your contribution is more than you are recognised for and that you are taken for granted without acknowledgement. Your challenge is one of self-esteem. You may find yourself placed in positions where you are playing a background role in the acknowledgement and recognition of others without credit for the support you give. You consciously feel that you should be in charge because you like things done your way; you see clearly which way to go and you feel you have a wider perspective than others. You dislike others controlling you, and you may pull away because you need to feel free to pursue the direction that you know is correct for you. You can have an inner battle with issues of control. You prefer to be more invitational than dictatorial. You may not have a forward approach. You like to work as a team player and empower others in work situations, but you tend to attract egocentric people who are control driven and if this should happen, you cannot give your best. You need the freedom to work to your own system; then you will feel confident and work to a very high standard. You consciously fear personal failure. You do not compete with others. You have your own internal set of rules and standards which you try to live up to. When you think you have fallen beneath your standards, you can feel disappointed in yourself. You tend to give in to others rather than battle with them over positions of control and organisation in order to maintain a professional working climate, but you can attract people who compete with you on an ego level. This can backfire with reactions involving status and position. You want nothing more than to connect with people in mutual trust and respect while other people can set themselves up against you. You are not control driven, and you will back away from control-driven people. You may put systems and goals in place and you can achieve the result you want, but with someone else getting the credit or recognition. When this happens you think; “Interesting!” and you tell your ego to get over it. You may wonder about your status, not for personal reasons but for how your role is perceived to be. When dealing with other people you try to be loyal, ethical and correct within the structure of your position, but this can isolate you from others, and because you try to be supportive and uphold the positions of others, that can hurt. You work within the social structure of rules and regulations which you see as positive; you consider they are in place for a reason and you try to guide by example.

PART OF FATE IN AQUARIUS

Keywords: equal-rights, independent, objective, humane and team-spirited.

You are on the path to social equality.

Your challenge is to align yourself with the flow of life. In order for you to achieve your goals you must become part of the collective, yet stand independently for the greater good of society as a whole.

You do not feel comfortable when you are organised to fit into situations where others take your freedom of choice. Should this occur you have a strong drive to get out of the situation. You do not like being the centre of attention and groups of people can intimidate your independence unless you have a real interest in the group and you can fully participate as an individual. Otherwise you will detach mentally and shut yourself off. You are not pliable. You are mentally fixed and if you do not want to do something involving other people’s interests or expectations, then you will not do it. Your biggest trial is in relationships. You consciously put a wall up because you detect that other people can manipulate on different levels, and you will not give them the chance to manipulate you. You do not discriminate. You like people for “who they are” and you strive to get to know them in a general sense. You enjoy social diversification and you place trust in friendship with the freedom to come and go as you please. You select friends who can teach you something, but the flip side is that people in close association with you can cramp your style or block you in wider social community interests and friendships. In relationships you can have difficulty with commitment because you are not the stereotype to have a relationship with; you have diverse and varied interests and you need the freedom to socialise when you choose. You give your energy in friendship to help other people regardless of the consequences. But this can backfire, and more fully-committed relationships can place pressure on you to conform to their standard. This can destabilise relationships and lead to detachment or separation. When someone gets too close, you consciously put a wall up. This can impact on the quality of the relationship because you can be cool and detached. In love relationships you would like to get closer but you automatically put walls up. This is an inborn energy that you may not understand. If someone puts social pressure on you, you can mentally step aside. You may test other people through their social interaction, but you will not get close to them unless you choose to. People around you may feel separate from you, they may feel that they have to break through your exterior before they find the real you. You may have a fear of getting too close to others which can make you feel awkward and alone in closeness. This can cause inner hurt because deep down you are a social person, but you need the freedom of social independence. You enjoy social contact and you want friends, but you must be allowed to freely choose your friends otherwise you can feel socially uncomfortable. You are friendly, but you may not push yourself forward in friendships because you are cautious and you do not commit in friendship easily. Friendships must develop slowly. Some of your friends are friends because they have extended the hand of friendship to you. Love relationships can evolve out of friendship. You enjoy socialising and learning from people. Each friend can teach you something. You prefer extroverts who are free and liberated in their thinking. However there is another side to your personality, a side where you need to be on your own to detach from the world. If people overstay their welcome in your home you acutely feel the intrusion of your space and privacy. Your nerves can be affected if you do not have quality time on your own. A definite priority in your life is for people to understand that you need your space and freedom to detach from the world.

PART OF FATE IN PISCES

Keywords: sensitive, sympathetic, compassionate, empathetic, imaginative, reflective, meditative, quiet and spiritual.

You are walking in the path of renewed faith.

Your challenge is to let go of your obsessions, anxieties, guilt’s and fears and trust in the process.

You can take things personally and become hurt by things that people do and say, with a “Why me” attitude. You tend to bottle your emotions and worry too much over things that might never happen. You may feel as if it is all too hard and at times you may look for external reasons or blame others for the way you feel. When you were young you may have felt that you did not have anyone to empathise with who would understand. You felt you went through situations alone but you grew in self-reliance. You fear showing weakness and you place high expectations on yourself. If you should fall apart inside you will take responsibility for yourself and pick yourself up. Others may see you as being in control because you hide your suffering. Only your most trusted friends know how you really feel. You may feel that some people think you have got it all together and that it is all right for you. You can detect the feelings of others and if they are negative towards you, you intuitively feel it. However you try not to take it personally, either they will change their attitude, or they will not. When helping others, you listen and observe, pick up the vibrations and take it all in; then you look for a solution from your perspective and if they don’t want to listen to you or help themselves, then it is their responsibility. You are often presented with people who throw negative situations at you. You may feel you are always picking people up, trying to look on the bright side or the positive side but not always saying what others want to hear. Some people want to hear what they want to hear. They can be in denial or looking for sympathy. You will not sympathise with others but you will empathise with them because you will acknowledge how they feel and show them that you understand. However you feel that they must take responsibility for their thoughts and themselves. Sympathy can be negative and it can reinforce a state of mind. You prefer to empathise in understanding and encourage other people to take personal responsibility. Other people can think negatively, and from experience you know they can think negatively towards you so you shield yourself against negativity by not giving too much away. You will not be the victim of other people’s negative thinking. Instead you have a strong inner drive to sow positive seeds in the minds of others to help them through difficult times. You consciously believe life is in the giving and showing of love and it is important that you feel loved and appreciated by the people who are the closest to you, but you may feel that other people don’t give or show the love you give in equal amounts. You go out of your way to give to others but it is seldom returned and that hurts. You feel there is a purpose behind every problem and you want to give a positive direction. You feel you must be strong; therefore you tend to hide your suffering and give to others, but you can feel deeply hurt in your unrequited love. Your challenge is not to hold onto unrealistic expectations.